It’s been two months since my accident! How am I doing?

My granddaughter, Sophia, asked me again about the fall I took two months ago.  She’s still concerned that I may have been embarrassed –as I describe the event, I did create a spectacular kerfuffle.

I suppose to a six-year-old it would seem I attracted a wealth of unwelcome attention.

There is that nasty scar on my upper lip—but there’s makeup for that.

My chin doesn’t feel like my chin—something’s different, but no one else seems to notice, so I can live with that, too.

And there isn’t any pain. Amazing!

Perhaps more significant than the physical reminders, I’m even more aware of a distinct shift in my interior. My thoughts are quieter. My activities are slower. What does this mean?

When I first wrote about the accident I referenced how I thought multi-tasking was at fault. I knew better than to take a brisk walk in a crowded environment, probably head down, with my iPhone plastered against my ear.

But, I ignored any internal warning. I was making efficient use of my time.

The efficiency of multi-tasking—the lie we tell ourselves.

Clifford Nass, a research pioneer in the study of multi-tasking  passed away last week. A professor of communication at Stanford University, Nass was among the first academics to research and publish on the dangers of multi-tasking. His primary focus was analyzing how human interaction with technology has actually shortened our attention spans and interrupted our ability to concentrate.

I’ve read his work and been very interested in the topic since seeing him interviewed for a PBS Frontline episode at least three years ago.  As much as I can say I agree with his hypothesis that we are really psychologically wired to be more deliberate and to concentrate on one thing at a time, I, like probably most of modern society, think I’m more evolved than my biological predecessors.

Folly!

Post appointment with the pavement, I rather enjoyed sitting for a couple of days in a slightly altered state. I had little desire to do more than what’s necessary, took one look at my calendar and crossed out several appointments. They could wait.

I reached for Arnica gel for scrapes and bruises, but others suggested I also take the tablets.

I knew about Rescue Remedy, but I’d never tried it. I wasn’t badly upset by the fall, but I did feel a little shaky. Would these herbal drops have any effect on my overall mood and any residual anxiety?

Then there was the Turmeric tea. If turmeric tea is good, how about turmeric supplements? I’ll try it all.

And I don’t take Tylenol or Advil unless absolutely necessary, but I do occasionally use Traumeel.

Add in plenty of herbal teas, and it’s safe to say I was well medicated with homeopathic and herbal assistance.

Did these herbal measures significantly speed my healing?

I think so.

I have been amazed at how well and how quickly I mended!

But about two weeks ago I was still pondering the question, “Why am I so tired?”

I wasn’t running around at the pace I’d previously accepted as normal. I was eating an abundance of whole foods and taking all my vitamins. I was certainly getting more sleep than my previous average.

I was spending time enjoying the beauty of nature, visiting several of my favorite gardens simply for the joy of experiencing a quiet sanctuary.

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Then the light bulb went on!

I wasn’t tired…I was CALM!

67 thoughts on “It’s been two months since my accident! How am I doing?

  1. FANTASTIC post, Debra! At first, calm feels ODD . . . like a ship drifting without a motor or sails to PUSH, PUSH, PUSH. But once we bask in the groove of calm for a bit, it feels GROOVY. Like sunbathing on a beach while listening to the waves with no thoughts to get between US that THIS MAGICAL MOMENT!

    Enjoy!!!

    1. I think your analogy of a ship without the sails to “PUSH,PUSH,PUSH” really hits home, Nancy. The more efficiencies I work to integrate, the faster I move through each experience, which only opens up more time to fill! PUSH! And it’s been lovely not to fill up all the space and just sit from time to time. I realized I don’t sit unless I’m still doing something. Even reading. But recently I have been a little spacey–ha! It feels good just to sit and do nothing. Calm! I’m doing well physically, so now it’s up to me if I choose to accelerate or stay in lower gear. I’m liking lower gear. 🙂 I hope your weekend is lovely, Nancy. I always enjoy hearing what you and BFF have been up to!

  2. Yes calm does feel wrong. But then, it gets better. Sometimes I have to ask myself, am I calm or am I lazy (that’s because we are conditioned to be extra busy every moment!). Usually I am just peaceful.

    1. That’s exactly what I’ve been questioning, Kate. Am I just being lazy when I don’t do more? We get on a track that goes around in circles and we never know when to just jump off! Well, my fall gave me a good way to stop and assess, and that’s what I’ve been enjoying. Now if I can keep this calm going through the holidays, I’ll really know I learned something. 🙂 Have a great weekend, Kate.

  3. I’m so glad you addressed multi-tasking. At this point, the idea of multi-tasking is almost a joke, a one-liner that we toss about when we are doing a million things at once. In reality, I think multi-tasking became the norm as a means of compensating for less people having to do more work. As humans, we kept adapting. But the truth about multi-tasking is that we end up doing ten things poorly — and never one thing well. Keep healing!

    1. Yes, Kevin, do you remember when it was almost an imperative that we addressed our ability to multi-task on an employment application? Looking back, I wonder what skill we thought we were highlighting? But I am realizing that I move too quickly when I’m trying to cover so much ground, and I don’t really enjoy the process or the results. I have slowed down over the past two months, and it was a big relief when I realized that didn’t mean I was impaired, I was just enjoying it! Thank you so much for the kind words. I’m hoping whatever inflammation I still have in my chin will eventually calm, too!

        1. I know what you mean about lists and feeling the pressure of moving through the paces, Colleen. I think if we can just reduce the “unnecessarys” we’ve accomplished something good for ourselves! 🙂 I’m amazed at how often I make everything a priority–which is probably mostly habit. I’m working on that one! Hope you’ve had a good weekend and can ease into a new week. Perhaps?

  4. Such a wonderful post, Debra, and a reminder that slowing down and embracing calmness is a needed element in most of our lives.
    Thanks for the update on your recovery, and on those things that helped you through it.
    I actually spent some time tonight attending to some correspondence, writing (yes, on paper, with pen) some long due thank you notes and thinking of you notes. I felt good when I was done and was reminded of the gentler chores that I never seem to have the time to do. Your post, just after I finished, seemed to piggyback my little deed. Life is grand, isn’t it?

    1. Our thoughts are on similar plains here, Penny. It feels almost relaxing to sit and write some notes. I don’t do that very often, to be sure. I’ve become quick and expedient about my duties and many responsibilities, which translates to opening up more time to do more. So with every efficiency I open up space and then fill it. The past two months, when I haven’t had the ability to do that, I’ve realized how nice it is just to sit once in a while. LOL! Imagine that! My little spill was a blessing in many ways. I hope you have a wonderful weekend. ox

  5. I’m so glad to read that you’re recovered.. is this true? Or are you still suffering a bit with pain? I hope not.. it does take a while to get back to “normal” after an injury. That’s always an injury to my self-esteem as well, lol. I love that you’re noticing your calm space.. I try to be there most of the time, until other people jostle me around and get me going. My hubs once said I was in “lala land”.. haha, yes, indeed.. I am:D

    1. “Lala Land”–I like that, Smidge! That’s where I am right now, and I didn’t know what to call it. LOL! My state of calm is very quiet, and I’m appreciating it. I have limited my time with other people over the last two months–other than family–and I must say that has helped. LOL! I will have to re-enter the social world at some point, but I’ll double my herbal doses first. 🙂 Thank you for the kind words, my friend. I appreciate you. Have a wonderful weekend. ox

  6. It’s only by reading your post that I have finally understood why I don’t feel I get anything done in a day – I multitask so much that nthing really gets finished. THanks for the help, and I’m glad you’re feeling better. You granddaughter is a diamond.

    1. I love your comment! The literature really does support the idea that we are working longer and faster, yet experiencing less satisfaction and poor results. Our brains aren’t wired to “flit” from one thing to the next, or to try to concentrate on too many things at once. I have been saying for years that I have figured out how to be in two places at once, but it was the third place that tripped me up. I’m always doing several things at one time. But currently I’m really trying to change that very old habit, because it isn’t working for me. It’s worth experimenting with, don’t you think? And thank you for the comment on Sophia. She is such a little truth teller!

  7. Wow! That is a revelation Debra! The shock to your body was clearly enough (subconciously) to slow you down just enough to make life more pleasant… I hope this state remains with you for some time! I had a stressful phase earlier this year where I worked until I (more or less literally) dropped, and then my body just told me it had had enough! I think if we listen to our bodies more we would feel much better. Good to hear you healed so quickly. Take care and stay calm! 😀

    1. You’re so right, Cathy, about listening to our bodies. The thing that most amazed me over the last two months is that prior to the fall I really thought I was fine! I didn’t feel stressed, I was in good spirits and generally I felt mentally peaceful. But the difference when I had to stop cold was that my mind stopped, too! I wasn’t sitting making mental lists of things to do or even really thinking about what I might do later in a day! I had to acknowledge that I didn’t know if I would have the energy to do something beyond that very moment and I realize I’ve never really experienced that before. It felt wonderful! So now I realize I have the choice to “charge ahead” or I can maintain this slower pace. It’s an interesting time of year to experiment, as everything seems to speed up at the end of the year, but I’m going to really try. And one thing I’m choosing to do is invest more time in the garden between now and spring. I usually don’t this time of year. As I can, though, I will. Being in the garden is such a natural way for me to unplug, and I can see I need to be very intentional about that. I’m so glad you are clear with yourself when your body is screaming “STOP!” It’s a hard thing to learn–for some of us anyway. 🙂 Have a wonderful weekend, my friend.

    1. Thank you, Jim. This has been an interesting two months and I’ve enjoyed shifting my view a bit! The turmeric tea is interesting because it’s first made as a paste. The amount of honey mixed into the turmeric really modifies the base which is peppery. There is a little hint of the curry, but much milder than I would have thought. I really enjoy it. I do use a lot of honey in the paste, but I think I could begin to back off on that now that I’ve really started enjoying the taste. 🙂

    1. It’s funny to think that I haven’t really experienced this level of calm in a long time, Marie. I have peace of mind, but calm is somehow different, and I wouldn’t have known that had I not really been stopped cold in my tracks! 🙂 I have learned a lot in the last two months about myself and how I respond to responsibilities. The accident was a small blessing, I think. Thank you for your kind thoughts, my friend. Enjoy your weekend, too! 🙂

  8. Us, bloogers, can NOT deny how we are always disturbed by how our blogs are doing. 😀 esp. when we just post a new entry. 😛 But I also think it’s the same with THE MEN! who play video games, or a girl who likes to play a piano. It’s all under perspective and can remedy by balance. Glad to know you’re breathing lighter.

    1. I think balance is key, also, Rommel. I think many of my imbalances come with trying to be responsible for too many things, some of which probably aren’t really all that important. I could prioritize. And yes, at this point I’m doing very well, with some good lessons learned! Thank you, my friend. Have a good weekend.

  9. That a way because calm is a state of mind! Regarding the accident, I had to go back to the post because i don’t recall it … and ah ha … it was during blogging break, just a few days before leaving on vacation. At least all is well.

    1. That’s right, Frank, I took my spill in the first couple of weeks of September. It was really quite spectacular! Yikes! I have to say that my good humor about what I’ve been through is in part due to the fact that I still can’t figure out how I didn’t break a bone or my teeth! I am just so grateful! I’ve really given myself permission to continue to heal…and that translates into more quiet time. I’ve liked that. All is well,indeed. Thank you, Frank.

  10. I don’t think to be able to enjoy the beauty of nature or a quiet sanctuary is a bad substitute for multi-tasking and too fast a life style. And while writing this, I know I am terrible at having too many balls in the air at the same time… Anyway, I am glad you are well recovered – besides the interior shift.

    1. Thank you, Otto. It’s a bit of a challenge for me to maintain a slower pace, but I’m trying to think in terms of doing what’s most important to me and letting other things go a bit. I think my effort is mostly trying to be a bit less scattered. I can run from one thing to the next sometimes a bit unconsciously. All in all, I’m doing well and very grateful for a quick recovery. 🙂

  11. From such an awful accident you have come through so well. It’s like, ‘every cloud has a silver lining’ or that scripture that says, ‘all things work together for good’. It’s wonderful how you have turned such an awful accident into a positive. I’m sure those herbal remedies worked wonders – so much better for you than anything from a pharmaceutical company xx

  12. It’s interesting how time gives some perspective on what everything means. Your conclusions are very reasonable and show all the positives that came from your accident. I’m really happy for you!

    1. There were positives from the accident, Meg. I am determined to resist ramping up my activity to “before accident” levels. I am enjoying the slower pace. Slow Los Angeles style! LOL! There’s only so much I can limit. 🙂

    1. Thank you for the link to your blog. I find your topics very interesting, and we do have some similar interests. Thank you for stopping by and sharing. Traumeel is new to me, but I’ve found it very beneficial! 🙂

  13. I know exactly what you mean, Debra. A whiplash injury has stopped me in my tracks and prevented me from doing more than one task at a time. And, do you know what? Everything important gets done and my mind is much more relaxed. But I’d never thought that the sleepiness I experience, even on days when I’ve done very little, is actually calm. I shall reflect on that! 🙂

    1. I’m so sorry to hear about your whiplash, Jacqueline. I hope you’ll perhaps discover that the sleepiness is indeed the calm spirit, not really fatigue. I had actually started questioning if I was acting “spacey.” I felt like there were things that I SHOULD care about, but didn’t. I also thought at first I was fatigued. It took a while before I realized I was just fine! LOL! I just wasn’t as alert to all the noise and chatter–I had unplugged! Now that I realize how good it feels I hope to be in a position to cultivate that mental rest. It’s new territory for me. 🙂 I hope you continue to heal, also. I know a whiplash can really jar the entire nervous system. ox

  14. Such good news on your rapid healing Debra, and the new-found calm! I can hardly believe two months have passed, life has been rushing past, but this weekend I am feeling calm too, just pottering without any urgent deadlines … so much easier on the body and mind … and now you have reminded me to try turmeric tea … another treat waiting to be discovered. I have been ‘cold’ since my dental surgery so have been making ginger, clove, cinnamon and cardamon tea, warm with honey … another possible treat for you 🙂

    1. Thank you for the tea suggestions, Christine. I haven’t tried cardamon tea, and I think that would be wonderful! I’ve cut back on my coffee and I’ve been enjoying more teas lately. There is so much variety to choose from. I think rushing about becomes a habit. It does for me anyway. 🙂 So now that I’m feeling a little less urgency and enjoying a slower pace, I’d really like to keep that going. It feels very nice! I hope you feel better soon, too, Christine, following your dental surgery. I have a bit of that to come in January…always a little hard on the system. ox

  15. I’m so glad you’re feeling well again now, Debra and not only well but calm. You’re so right about the inefficiency of multi-tasking, but in our hectic working lives it often seems the only way to be. I’ve slowed sown so much since I retired and still manage to get things done when i have to. As for your gorgeous photos, well, we HAVE to slow down to see and capture the beauty of little things. 🙂

    1. Thank you very much, Perpetua. I am cultivating as much calm as I can! I live in a tremendously fast-paced, pressure cooker environment–just so many people. LOL! I’ve enjoyed bringing the level of activity and pace down by several notches. Now I just have to learn how to resist the temptation to enter the fray. I’m determined. 🙂

  16. Great healing process! I use both Arnica and Turmeric. The multi-tasking thing is a hard one fro me to swallow. I have been so efficient my whole life but it only takes one incident as you describe to end the efficiency.

    1. Thanks, Tammy. I think it really does depend on how we’re describing multi-tasking. Our brains are efficient, and so of course we automatically do more than one thing at a time. My efficiencies, however, have been severely compromised of late…perhaps it’s age! LOL!

  17. Mindfulness has helped me, although I’m not a disciplined practitioner. As your website title indicates, we can find equanimity in controlled and studied breathing exercises. Plus, I don’t see a darned thing wrong with living life a little slowly. I enjoy the easier pace. Glad to hear the bumps and bruises are clearing up.

    1. I’m with you…slow is fine! I didn’t realize I was moving faster than I needed to until I experienced slow. LOL! I would benefit from more intentional Mindfulness practice. I’m giving a lot of thought to many changes. 🙂 Thank you for stopping by!

    1. I do think some of the fatigue is fall related, Tilly. I know the impact was substantial and I think my entire spinal column must have done a dance! But I’m fortunate that right now there’s nothing too pressing and I can go at a slower pace. ox

  18. Dear Debra, I’m so far behind on reading your blog I don’t think I knew you’d had a bad fall. I do hope things are improving. I’m so grateful for you constant presence on my blog even in the face of my absence from yours.
    Big hugs
    Tricia xx

    1. I did take a bad fall in September, Tricia, but I wasn’t badly injured. It was one of those instances when I was very aware that it could have had truly long-term implications. I’m really fine now, and have been doing even better since I started taking all these herbs! LOL! I think I’m a little sedated. 🙂 Your poetry has become very meaningful to me. I try very hard never to miss one of your posts, my friend. I feel very connected! ox

  19. GLad to hear that you’re doing so much better now, Debra, and I’m sure your chin will come back to you. 🙂 I do enough tumbling without complicating matters by talking on my iPhone as I walk around. It took me a while to adjust to “retirement” but now, nothing is so important that it cannot wait a few minutes. “Calm” is the only way to fly.

    1. I have been enjoying a slower pace, John. I don’t think I realized I was darting about quite so much until I slowed down. Its a nice pace and I’d like to maintain it. If I can stay calm through the entire holiday season I will now I’ve permanently moved into a slower gear! It’s good to hear from you. I hope you traveled well and had a wonderful visit. 🙂

  20. I enjoyed the gardens, too, Debbie. 🙂
    I must’ve been feeling more sympathy with you than I thought- I’ve spent a lot of time picking myself up off the floor lately. Three falls in fewer weeks (two over a bollard, one down some stairs) I was planning my wardrobe for Barcelona, but short skirts were out. I needed something longer to cover the scrapes and bruises. At least I’m pretty sure now I don’t have osteoporosis- I’d be in bits! 🙂 And Barcelona was still magnificent, even with the slippy stairs!

    1. I’m certainly laughing with you, not at you Jo! How ironic that just today I said the same thing to a friend–“My bones must be alright or by now something would have broken!” Hahaha! Hard way to learn that, though, huh? I think you and I share an interest in packing a lot into a day, and sometimes we must get moving just a bit too quickly! I am certainly glad you didn’t seriously hurt yourself and jeopardize your wonderful travels. We both need to be careful, though, don’t we! Don’t tempt fate. Haha!

  21. Dear Debra, you say that we are really psychologically wired to be more deliberate and to concentrate on one thing at a time, I think this applies to me very much so. I am not good at all at multi tasking. How ever I do not always keep calm. Sounds good you experienced calmness after you had to cut down on a few things. It’s great that you were able to mend quickly after your accident. I want to reblog this beautiful post of yours. I hope you do not mind this. Best wishes, Uta

  22. I am happy to hear you’re on the mend. It’s an unfortunate truth that we sometimes need a wake-up call to slow down and enjoy each moment as it happens. A recent trip with our daughter and baby grandson to the Brooklyn Botanic Gardens when the trees were at the height of their fall glory was more than worth the time! Shutterbug Sarah spent long minutes trying to get the perfect shot of a bee on a flower. My initial impatience gave way to appreciation of the beauty of what she was photographing. And little Eli was adorable when we put him among a patch of colorful leaves. An inspiration: the idea for a blog post? Thank you for again liking my blog!

    1. Thank you so much for stopping by with such a nice comment! I am definitely feeling myself again, with plenty of energy and strength, but I’m trying to not run in too many directions, as has been my habit. 🙂 Your day at the Brooklyn Botanic Gardens is very much my cup of tea! I can imagine some wonderful photos with the baby in the leaves! Those are those “Kodak” moments we always love to capture on a beautiful day.

      I wonder if you’re making any special plans or changing your traditions at all to incorporate both Thanksgiving and Hanukkah? Isn’t it something about the alignment of the two this year and then not again for 79,000 years? That does make this year rather special, doesn’t it? I do hope your day tomorrow is very full of love and family, and thank you again for stopping by!

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